relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:
1) have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?
2) do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?
3) have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?
4) have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?
5) is my partner affectionate to the degree that i expect?
6) can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?
7) will there be a television in the bedroom?
8) do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?
9) have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?
10) do we like and respect each other’s friends?
11) do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) what does my family do that annoys you?
13) are there some things that you and i are not prepared to give up in the marriage?
14) if one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
15) does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
婚姻生活关系专家认为有很多夫妻在结婚以前根本没有相互问清楚一些至关重要的问题。以下夫妇应该考虑弄清楚的部分问题：
1）是否讨论过生还是不生小孩，如果是肯定回答，主要由谁来带小孩？
2）是否清楚彼此的经济负担和目标，关于花销和存款的意见是否相互冲突？
3）是否讨论过对如何收拾房屋有何期望，对于由谁来料理家务是否能够达成一致？
4）是否对彼此的既往病史，无论是身体上的还是精神上，都无所隐瞒？
5）对方感情强烈程度达到我所期望的吗？
6） 我们能自然而开诚布公地交流彼此的性需求、偏好或恐惧？
7）卧室里放电视吗？
8）我们是否能够真正倾听、客观地考虑彼此的意见以及抱怨？
9）是否了解彼此到精神信仰和需求，是否讨论过让小孩何时以及怎样接受宗教或道德教育？
10）我们是否认可、尊重彼此的朋友？
11）是否重视、尊重彼此的父母，双方是否有人担心父母会干涉两人的关系？
12）我家人做什么事会惹你不高兴？
13）有什么是你和我不准备为婚姻舍弃的？
14）如果某一方在某处得到一个工作机会，却远离另一方的家庭，我们搬家吗？
15）是否双方对彼此的婚姻忠诚度都一百个放心，都相信这一关系能够应对我们可能面临的任何挑战？