Lessons in love
爱的课程
Life can be fantastic as a single when you don't want the hassle of a relationship. But for those who long to find love, Valentine’s Day can be lonely, so follow these tips to get yourself a date just in time for the 14th. Here are six love lessons to help you to get love into your life.
单身的时候生活是美妙的当你不想关系。但是对于那些渴望找到爱的人，情人节是孤单的，因此遵循下面这些条14号去约会。这里有六个爱的课程帮助你在生活中拥有爱。
Treat every chance encounter as a speed date
把每一次偶遇当做速度约会
Time to develop a 'winner-at-love' mind-set and be prepared for the idea that around the next corner is Mr Potential. This means you're ready with a smile plus confident posture radiating positivity that will attract his interest. Treating each encounter like a speed date means you give your best. Standing hunched over, staring at the floor is a big no-no! But saying something neutral that creates a shared experience is a fab start. For instance, as you both wait for the lift in your office building, smile and say: "This lift can take forever." You immediately create that shared experience. Of course play it safe - don't give your number to any old guy - but be ready at work, at the sandwich shop, or even at the dentist's to signal you're approachable.
该是时候发展一段‘赢家之爱’的思想，准备好这种想法在下一个转角就会遇见你的心上人。这意味着你准备好了微笑和自信的姿势积极的放射会引起他的兴趣。把每一次偶遇当做速度约会意味着你做到了最好。只是站着，盯着地板是不对的！但是说一些中立的事情创造一次分享的经历是一个好的开始。例如，当你等着办公室大楼电梯的时候，微笑着说：“我们会永远乘电梯。”你立刻的创造了分享经历。但是安全起见-不要把你的电话给任何老家伙-但是工作时，在三明治商店时，甚至是牙医那里准备好，来表明你是随时可以找到的。
Beware of 'chemical' attraction
注意‘化学的’吸引
Make sure the intense sexual chemistry you have with a particular man isn't leading you down the wrong path. Sexual chemistry is great - and yes, couples need a spark - but some women repeatedly get swept off their feet by charismatic men who only want a fling. If you're looking for love rather than a bit of fun, learn to tell the guys only after one thing apart from those who can offer you more. Those who only expect sex - and aren't interested in love - tend to ring at the last minute, flirt like mad and use loads of sexual innuendo when with you. And then you don't hear from them until it suits them. Don't waste your time with them!
确保你和特殊男子的立刻的性的化学吸引没有使你向下到错误的路上。性的化学反应是极好的-是的，情侣需要火花-但是一些女人被迷人的男人弄到床上只想满足需求的。如果你寻找爱而不是一点乐趣，学着告诉只想做一件事的家伙们除了那些会提供你爱的人。那些期待性的-对爱不感兴趣-倾向于在最后时刻打电话，像疯了一样调情，当和你在一起的时候用许多性的动作。然后你不会收到它们的来信直到你符合它们的标准。不要浪费时间和它们在一起。
Dump your normal 'type'
卸下你正常的‘类型’
It's easy to get stuck always dating the same 'type'. You figure you've always liked sporty guys, or outgoing guys, so you always go for them. The problem is you miss lots of other good men because they don't look sporty or they aren't the most outgoing in the group. But think about it logically (I know, hard to do when it comes to love!) and you will realise you could be jeopardising your chances of finding love because if you haven't found it yet with your supposed 'type' - maybe that type isn't for you. Be daring, break this relationship bad-habit and go for the opposite type. Try dating that quieter guy or the lanky one who doesn't look sporty. You might find your Mr Right after all.
很容易总是以同样的‘类型’约会。根据你的形象你总是喜欢运动的家伙，或者外向的，因此你总是追求它们。问题是你错过了许多其他好男人因为看起来不运动或它们不是人群中最外向的。但是逻辑的想想（我知道，当爱来的时候很难做）你会实现你能够找到爱的机会，因为如果你没找到想要的‘类型’-或许那种类型并不适合你。勇敢些，打破坏习惯的关系追求相反的类型。试着约会更安静的家伙或者看起来不运动的家伙。你可能最后找到你的真命天子。
Widen your circle of opportunity
扩大你的机遇的圈子
You're already enhancing your opportunities by treating every chance encounter like a speed date. Now you've got to reconsider your 'circle of opportunity'. Research shows we have a set geographical and emotional 'circle' we operate in - taking the same route to work, going to the same pub after work, always seeing the same friends and doing the same things. Seeing as your circle of opportunity hasn't brought you the love of your life, it needs changing. Start widening it to maximise love-opportunities. Take new routes to work, go to new places, take a selection of evening classes, enlist a friend to try new bars and clubs with you, and check out some of the singles events in your area as well as internet dating.
你已经掌握机会把每一次相遇的机会都视为约会。现在你可以重新考虑你的机会的圈子。调查表明我们专注于地域的和情感的‘圈子’-走同样的路线去工作，工作后去同样的酒吧，总是看同样的朋友做同样的事。看看你的机会圈没有给你的生活带来爱，它需要改变。开始把它扩到最大来寻找爱-机会。走新的路线上班，去新的地方，上一系列的晚课，找一个朋友和你尝试新的酒吧和俱乐部，在你的区域里找出单身的事情和通过互联网约会。
Make your love-mascot work for you
让模范恋人帮助你
Sometimes we need inspiration from outside of ourselves. Taking on board a personal love-mascot - in this case someone who's successful in love - can be super-helpful. Think about someone you admire from your life who has a really good relationship. Or celebrities who have found love, like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Turn them into your private love-mascot. Imagine how Angelina approaches her relationship. Can you visualise her confidently chatting up her Mr Right when they first met? If she can do it, so can you. Think of her attitude and her natural ease around men, and grab some of it for yourself every time you walk out of your front door.
有时我们需要来自外部的灵感。在桌子上放一张私人的模范恋人-在爱情上成功的人-是非常有帮助的。想想生活中你尊敬的人有着良好人际关系的。或者找到爱的名人，像安吉丽娜 俏丽和布莱德 皮特。把他们视为你自己的模范恋人。想象安吉丽娜是怎样获得她的关系。你认为她会自信的和她的心上人交谈吗当她们第一次见面的时候？如果她能做，你也能。想想她的态度和她和男人们在一起的自然，每次当你走出家门的时候掌握其中的一些。
Be aware of that little devil on your shoulder
注意你肩上的小恶魔
The final - and maybe most important - Love Lesson is banishing that little devil on your shoulder that talks you down. You know, that negative voice that whines on and on telling you things like you're not attractive enough, you're a failure at love, no one's going to ever want you... When your internal dialogue - that little devil - consists of all that negativity it's hard to hide it. And whereas confidence is highly attractive, a severe lack of confidence and lots of insecurity that you're not good enough for love is a turn-off. Challenge that voice whenever it starts. Stop it and start telling yourself that you have lots to offer and that you will find love.
最后-或许是最重要的-爱的课程要赶走你肩膀上的小恶魔认为你不行的。你知道，消极的声音一直呼喊着告诉你你不够吸引人，你是爱情的失败者，没有人想要你...当你内部的对话-那个小恶魔-包含所有的消极很难躲掉。尽管自信是极其吸引人的，严重缺少自信和过多的不安全感你不够好拥有爱是一个拒绝。挑战那种声音无论什么时候它开始。阻止他，告诉你自己你有许多给予的，你会找到真爱。
英文来源：lifestyle. xin.msn.com
中文翻译： 原版英语学习网编辑 Vicky