there are huge differences in the way men and women gossip - and it's not as simple as talking about football versus talking about shopping。
不要以为男男和女女互相八卦的唯一区别在于前者聊足球，而后者聊购物。不是！这两种性别的生物八卦的方式可大不一样。
for men, gossiping together brings them closer - but that effect doesn't work for women, and gossip can threaten friendships。
对于男人来讲，八卦能拉近彼此的距离——但不幸的是，这条定律对女人来说可不受用——女人更容易在八卦后反目成仇！
oddly, the fact that men might be talking about football actually brings them closer. ]even boasting about achievements such as pay rises seems to bring men together。
说来也奇怪，男人之间竟然连谈论足球都拉近彼此关系；即使是夸口“老子工资又涨了！”都能让哥俩间更亲近。
'the male friendship is more characterized by engaging in group activities so gossip can serve to enhance the bond between individuals within the group,' says david c watson of grant mcewan university at edmonton。
“男人之间的友谊，多是通过参与团体活动、相互闲扯，从而使个人与群体的关系更紧密。”来自加拿大埃德蒙顿市格兰特麦克尤恩大学的大卫 沃森说道。
but because female friendships 'run deeper', gossip can have the opposite effect. women tend to chat a lot about physical appearance, and this can actually threaten their friendships。
但是，女性之间的友谊更为“深沉”，所以有时反而会达到相反效果。女人们喜欢扎堆讨论打扮啦外表之类的问题，这些东西会损害她们间的感情。
'female friendships are more characterized by communion or intimacy. gossip can be more of a threat to the relationship than it does in male friendships,' says watson. both sexes, predictably, gossip in rather different ways。
“因为女性友谊的特点在于共享、亲密。因此，八卦这件事不一定会带来像男性一样的效果，却很可能适得其反。”因为这两种性别的八卦方式非常不同。
'physical appearance gossip was found to be more prevalent in females,' says watson. 'but it doesn't help with friendship quality. this type of gossip may be a more of a competitive threat to the relationship in females。
“女性间经常谈论打扮、外表之类的话题”，沃森说道，“但这些东西不能在实质上帮助友情的维系。因为这是种隐含了相互攀比意味的方式。”
the study examined gender differences in the relationship between friendship quality and gossip tendency with a sample of 167 female and 69 male western canadian undergraduate university students using the friendship questionnaire and the tendency to gossip questionnaire。
这项研究是通过对加拿大西部一所大学中167位女生和69为男生的问卷采访完成的。 被采访人需要做一份关于友谊的问卷和一份对于八卦偏好的问卷。这项研究的侧重点在于两性间的友谊与其八卦倾向的影响。