2月21日22:51分，袁莉的加籍老公blaine grunewald通过微博透露，二人已经在其家乡加拿大卡尔加里举行婚礼宴请亲友，并上传了一张婚纱照。照片中袁莉穿着红色中式礼服，发迹别着红色鲜花，侧身和老公甜蜜对吻，非常恩爱。二人被7个可爱的外籍小女孩相拥，小女孩的头上亦都别着鲜花，场面甚是温馨。
由此，我们可以从中了解到中美婚姻的一些差异。主要从中美分别对婚姻的态度着手。
chinese attitudes to marriage
the chinese is different from americans in choosing spouse, and one of the main reasons is that they have a significant difference on attitude to marriage. chinese people pay attention to interdependent interpersonal relation. marriage is not a simple combination of two individuals. parents marry daughter-in-law for son, it is seemingly for their son, but it is actually for the entire family to marry the daughter-in-law. in traditional chinese society, marry is involved in the important events among the family, including successive clan, it’s no wonder that the new generation goes into the house, and they will worship and hold the etiquette when meeting the family.
from this we can see that the chinese wedding is for others, it is mainly to carry on the family generational line and serve the husband’s parents when man marry a wife. it is the bounden duty and a responsibility to his family. of course, with the development of society, more and more people, especially young people have gradually got rid of some traditional bondage, they no longer simply think marriage is mainly to carry on the family generational line, and it is held to the family responsibilities. for them, getting married is an obligation should do to the family, and the more important one is their personal rights. as a member of society, they have the right to be responsible for their own future and various demands.
american attitudes to marriage
america is a young country in the world, which is made of many areas and the immigrants in many countries. until now, there is still a massive number of immigrants enter into the united states every year, they had strong personal struggle consciousness and the sense of competition. american diversified culture and social environment make many people have accepted such life creed: every man for himself and god for us all; every man is the architect of his own fortune. they think that marriage is the combination of two individuals, as long as both men and women parties are legal age, the third party had no right to interfere.
the marriage counselor also makes concrete analysis about the problems and assists the parties to understand the other part, and never puts forward specific positive sexual suggestions. of course, to see from the basic mentality between wonder and action in americans, americans’ marriage is only for themselves, and it is mainly to find a permanent heterosexual partner in the life, thus they could meet the demand in the physical, psychological and social parts.
so they must personally carry out when they get married, choosing a person who is the same temperament and fun as them. marriage is their personal right but not the obligation. it is a kind of form and not a kind of responsibility. according to statistics, at present, the united states has 20% premarital women, and the phenomenon is everywhere that american wedding bride – who is pregnant. as long as there is the process, why have to get married?