英语美文点亮智慧人生11：Stop Comparing and Being Your Best 停止比较，做最好的自己（MP3+双语字幕）

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[00:00.00]If you want to drain your mental energy,	如果你想耗尽你的脑力，
[00:12.30]there is one easy way to do so:	有一个简单的办法，
[00:15.90]compare yourself with others.	就是把你自己和其他人比，
[00:17.65]Comparing yourself with others will only give you two things:	这种比较会给你带来两个后果：
[00:21.75]either you feel proud when you are above,	要么在你胜人一筹的时候，你感到自豪，
[00:25.16]or you feel jealous and intimidated	要么在你比上不足的时候，
[00:28.23]when you are below.	你感到嫉妒和恐惧。
[00:29.51]As you can see,	正如你所知道的，
[00:31.65]both are negative emotions	这两种后果带给你的都是负面情绪，
[00:33.20]that won't do you any good.	对你没有任何好处。
[00:35.36]Unfortunately, our culture is full of comparisons.	不幸的是，我们的文化充满了比较。
[00:39.69]People like to compare themselves with others.	人们喜欢拿自己和别人比。
[00:42.82]While some people may say	一些人也许会说，
[00:45.25]that comparing is a way to motivate themselves,	和他人比较是一种激勘自己的方法。
[00:48.84]I think there is a better way to do	我认为有一种更好的方法，
[00:51.13]that without draining our mental energy.	并且不用耗尽我们的脑力。
[00:53.71]Here it is:	方法如下：
[00:54.91]Find a role model and use him as a pacer.	找一个行为榜样并且以他为你自己的标杆
[00:58.68]A role model is	所谓榜样就是
[01:00.56]someone whose quality and achievements you admire.	其身上的品质和成就为你所敬仰。
[01:03.56]It's no secret that	毫无疑问，
[01:06.11]the way to be great is by emulating those who are great.	成功最好的方法就是模仿成功人士。
[01:10.76]By finding the right role model,	通过找到合适的榜样，
[01:13.83]you will have concrete example of the qualities you want to achieve.	你将会塑造出你希望自己达到的具体形象。
[01:19.65]Since those qualities are now tangible,	既然这些品质是有形的，
[01:23.80]it will be much easier for you to run after them.	对你来说去效仿他们就变得容易得多了。
[01:27.32]By selecting the right role model and running after him,	通过选择合适的榜样并且追随榜样，
[01:32.71]you will quickly improve yourself.	你将能迅速提高自己。
[01:35.73]Here are some steps to apply this principle:	这里有一些可以适用的原则：
[01:39.67]Stop looking at others' statistics	停止参照他人的数据
[01:43.64]This is the way	这个方法可以
[01:45.90]to stop comparing yourself with others.	帮助你停止与他人进行比较。
[01:47.19]I know this is not easy to do	我知道，一开始并不容易做到，
[01:50.16]since we have the tendency to compare ourselves with others.	因为我们习惯性地把自己和他人比较。
[01:54.26]But, as I've said above,	但是，正如我以上所说的，
[01:57.28]this will only drain your mental energy.	这种比较只会耗尽我们的脑力。
[01:59.50]So resist the temptation to	所以，为了避免与他人比较，
[02:02.40]look at others' statistics for comparison sake.	要抵制这种参照他人数据的诱惑。
[02:05.13]Look around for someone whom you want to emulate	找寻一个你想要效仿的人
[02:09.37]Instead of comparing,	你应该找寻一个你所希望效仿的人，
[02:11.24]you should find someone you want to emulate.	而不是与他人比较。
[02:14.22]This is perhaps the most difficult step here	由于找寻一个合适的榜样并不简单，
[02:17.37]because it's not easy to find the right role model.	所以这点也许是最不容易做到的。
[02:20.30]Your role model should:	你要找到的榜样应该具备如下条件：
[02:23.60]have significant achievements that you want to emulate	你的榜样拥有你希望达到的重大成就
[02:27.30](in this case, you do need to look at his statistics)	（这点上，你确实需要去看一下他的数据）
[02:30.57]not so far ahead that you can't	你的榜样与你的距离
[02:33.36]realistically hope to run after him	不至于远到你无法追随他的境界
[02:35.53]have performed well consistently for long time	你的榜样长期一直表现杰出
[02:39.70]have other characteristics that	你的榜样身上还拥有一些特征，
[02:42.92]are similar to you or your situation	而这些特征与你或者你现在的情况比较相似
[02:46.10]The last point is important.	最后一点也很重要。
[02:48.88]There are perhaps some persons who have the achievements you want,	也许，你希望自己能和有些人一样成功，
[02:53.10]but--looking at their characteristics	但是看一下他们身上的特征，
[02:55.46]--they are very different from you.	这些特征在你身上找不到。
[02:58.28]In that case,	从这个层面上讲，
[02:59.67]it will be too difficult and unnatural	对你来说去模仿这样的一些人
[03:02.20]to emulate them.	很难而且也不自然。
[03:03.99]The more similar their characteristics with yours,	你与你要效仿的人的特质越是相近，
[03:07.16]the more natural it will be to emulate them.	那么你效仿起来也显得越加自然。
[03:10.48]While you can choose some models to emulate, in my opinion it is better to have only one main role model.	当你可以选择一些效仿目标的时候，
[03:19.20]Just like having one goal make it easier	以我的观点，
[03:22.37]for you to achieve it,	最好只选取一个主要目标。
[03:23.86]having one main role model make it easier	道理很简单，一个目标易得，
[03:27.57]for you to emulate him.	一个榜样易仿。
[03:29.40]Of course, you are unique,	当然，你是独一无二的，
[03:31.39]so you also need to learn from other models	你也可以从其他对象中
[03:35.30]to find the unique combination that fits you,	找到适合你的特别组合，
[03:38.35]but still, having one main model	但是，仍然集中于一个主要对象
[03:41.64]is helpful.	会对你有所帮助。
[03:42.76]Look closely at how your role model does things	仔细观察你所选定的榜样做事的方式
[03:46.11]To emulate your role model,	为了效仿你的榜样，
[03:48.13]you should find out the details of how he or she does things.	你需要找出他或她做事方式的细节。
[03:52.57]Watch your role model closely.	仔细观察你的行为榜样。
[03:55.10]Study his work, life, and methods.	认真学习他的工作方式、生活方式和方法。
[03:57.80]Try to dissect the traits and actions that make him successful.	努力分析使得他成功的品质和行为。
[04:03.42]Set some actions to take based on your findings	以你的发现为准绳，开始行动
[04:07.49]You should then turn your findings into some actions you can take.	你应该把你的发现转为可以采取的行动。
[04:12.21]These are the things you can do to bring you closer to your model's achievements.	你的行动将会缩小你和你的榜样之间的距离。
[04:18.92]Set your role model's current statistics and quality as your target	将你的榜样现在的数据和品质作为你的目标
[04:23.71]As I wrote above,	正如我如上所写，
[04:25.66]your role model acts as a pacer.	你的榜样就是你的标杆。
[04:27.88]So set his statistics and quality	所以他所获得的成功和拥有的品质
[04:30.80]as your target to run after.	就是你要努力追赶的对象。
[04:33.11]Of course, you should not blindly try to match the numbers.	当然，你也不应该盲目去凑数，
[04:37.56]Adjust things to match your unique circumstances.	改造它，让它适应你自己所特有的情况。
[04:41.88]Aim to emulate your role model as quickly as possible	尽快开始你的效仿之路
[04:46.35]To make sure that you do not just sit down and relax,	确保你不只是坐在那里休闲放松，
[04:49.68]you should make a decision to run as fast as you can.	你应该下定决心尽力而为。
[04:53.39]Your role model may have been ahead of you	也许在你追上你的榜样现有的成就时，
[04:56.60]when you reach his current level of achievement,	你的榜样仍旧在你的前方，
[04:59.99]but that's fine.	不过对你来说没有任何问题，
[05:01.32]The most important thing is you run as fast as you can.	最重要的是你尽力而为了。

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英语美文点亮智慧人生11：Stop Comparing and Being Your Best 停止比较，做最好的自己（MP3+双语字幕）