When friendship suddenly turns into more. Know what signs to look for.
You've been friends all for a long time. You tell each other everything, even who you're dating and how it's going. Then suddenly it happnens. The change-over occurs...without your even realizing it.
Suddenly this comfortable, easy-going friendship takes on a new form and becomes a burgeoning romantic relationship. It's more cuddly, it's more endearing. Next thing you know, the two of you are a full-blown couple. Here are four signs that you and your guy friend, your bud, your bro, have transformed into a hot romantic duo.
1) Your friends start making very obvious comments. All of a sudden every time you go out with a group of friends (and you and your guy pal are there) comments slip out about how cute the two of you would look as a couple, how into each other you two are, and how compatible your personalities are. Often your friends may see the romance spark before you do!Answer: How do I turn my "friend-with-benefits" into something more?
2) You find yourself making or receiving a daily call, often right before bedtime. Out of nowhere, before you even noticed, the two of you started talking every day, at length, about nothing, and you're secretly loving it. What did you have for lunch...how was your day...what are you doing right now. You begin to look forward to these conversations with your guy "friend" and a day that goes by without a casual chat just doesn't seem right. Text Message Flirting For Beginners
3) Unplanned, you find you have developed pet names for each other. It used to be a "Hey, Bro" kind of thing. Now, it's "Sweetie this" and "hey Babe" that. His texts now include the added "Sweetheart" and "Doll." You don't point it out and make things awkward. You just let your heart melt and start answering to this new litany of adorable pet names. Read: What Your Pet Names Say About You
4) Pats on the back become arm and hand intertwinings. Whether it's watching the game on the big-screen TV or playing catch in the park what used to be high-fiving and patting on the back friend-style becomes a softer, gentler hand-holding, draping arms on shoulders, sitting on laps, and hugging kind-of thing which leads, inevitably, to that first little sweeter-than-Hershey's kiss on the forehead. When all these signs are there it's bound to happen.
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What is happening between my best guy friend and I?
He was the very first friend I made when I first moved up here several years ago. We both were in relationships and had never been single at the same time until now. We know most everything about each other, hang out all of the time and have seen each other at our worst.
A few years ago I told him that I love him. Yes I was a bit inebriated at the time, but that is always when your true feelings come out. He was just in a new relationship at the time and I was in a very unhealthy one. Thankfully, we stayed friends despite my little outburst which normally would make a guy run for the hills. Shortly after that, I got out of my bad relationship. It felt good. He was continuing on with his relationship that seemed to be going well for him. Only thing was she never was social or wanted to go hang out when all of us friends were getting together. I'm not the only one who thought she just wasn't right for him.
I always give my friends hugs when I see them and he was no different. The only thing was when we hugged I always felt this little spark. A couple of times I would give him a ride home and when we said goodbye, he kissed me. I felt guilty because he was still in his relationship, but it wasn't anything too major and it felt nice. About a year and a half into their relationship, it ended. He hooked up with a couple of mutual friends a couple of nights, but for some reason he always felt it necessary to tell me what happened. I never understood why he felt obligated to tell me that he slept with someone. I mean we're just friends right? We continued to hang out as usual - movies, drinks, friends, fires, etc. Then a few months later, him and his ex got back together.
I asked him if he was happy and he never really said yes, just that "she's good for me." They got back together for about a month, and she dumped him again. All the while I'm still there. You know.... the friend....
We have been there for each other always over the years. When I needed a place to stay when I broke up with my boyfriend, he let me have his couch. When he needed help with anything I was always there to lend a hand. About a month after their final break up, we started to hang out a lot more. We've always been flirty and then one night he kissed me. We snuggle up on the couch together and watch movies and what not. Whenever I used to stay over at his house, I always slept on the couch. One night he asked me to stay but with him in his room. No, we didn't sleep together, just kissed a bunch and got a little handsy. Every time we would kiss after a little while he would stop and say "no you are my good friend," then we would end up kissing again a little while later. Because of his actions there I was confused on what he actually wanted. Did he want me as just a friend or more?
The next time I went over to his house, I slept on the couch because of his whole "friends" thing but he slept on the couch holding on to me. He had a bad back at the time and when I asked him why didn't he sleep in his bed he answered, "because you were out here."
We went camping this last weekend, and his dog came over to my tent where my dog was (they are best friends too) and so I got up and brought her back to his tent. That night it was a bit rainy and so because I had my backpacking tent and a big wet dog, I stayed with him since he had way more room. Before we went to sleep, we kissed as usual and snuggled up and he said "I love you." He had said it once before but just like me I think he might have had a few. Is it our subconscious speaking for us?
I have yet to hang out with him since the camping trip since it is a work week and what not. I don't want to be his rebound girl, but since he already had his fun the first time they broke up, do I have to worry about that? Do I just wait and see where things go? I just don't risk my friendship with him, because if I do end up getting hurt, then what? I am so confused on what is going on. I don't want to talk to him about it because I think it might be too early still... Any insight into this situation would be great help.
Thanks!