Breaking up is hard to do, says Neil Sedaka. Whether you are feeling the sting of rejection or the pain of a failed relationship, there are some things you must do to get over the breakup and heal your broken heart.
Cry. Simply allow yourself to have a really good cry. Rejection, anger and sadness need an outlet. Give those negative hormones the boot along with the relationship by releasing the floodgates. Grab a pillow, stock up on tissues and sob, even scream if you must. Being a mess over a breakup for a few hours or a few days is worth it. Holding it in and playing strong is a sure way to depression, anger issues and a repeat performance.
Delete. Just do it. Delete their phone number from your cell. Erase their email. Knock them and even block them from your Facebook account. Cutting ties is the best way to go. Pretending the offender doesn't exist for awhile makes getting over the pain a little easier. Put some distance between the two of you for the time being. Making it harder to pick up the phone to dash off a pathetic text is better in the long run.
Write it out. Write and write and write, no censoring, no holding back. Be honest and petty and completely irrational. Just keep it to yourself. Journaling is a very healing activity. Go ahead and analyze the relationship. Be a sleuth and figure out what went wrong and why you broke up. Be nasty and complain about the unfairness of it all. You can keep this diary account, or burn it. Either way, the release will do you good.
Health Top Tips Nutrition Love Lifestyle Happiness Weight LossSplurge. Now is not the time to control yourself. The is no shame in an ice-cream binge while watching sappy movies in your jammies all day. Calories don't count when your heart is broken.
Circle the Wagons. Use your friends as a buffer against depression. Let them know you are feeling fragile and are in need of reassurance. Don't accept blind dates just yet, just some good old-fashioned buddy time. Do something active, like meet a pal at the gym, or take a hike or long walk and just talk. Afterward, go get some ice cream; you are still allowed to splurge.
Re-evaluate. OK, so you've had a breakup. You've cried, deleted, wrote it out and splurged -- now it's time to take charge. Make plans for the future. Throw yourself into a new project or hobby. Find something to consume your time that you feel passionately about. This can be anything: take a class, volunteer, travel. Refrain from jumping into a new relationship until you've completed this step, though. Use the breakup to break out of an outdated mindset. There will plenty of time to find a new love, after you take care of yourself.